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A follow is not a blank cheque

A follow is a yes to the next post, given once and withdrawn quietly. Most accounts treat it as something they own. It is closer to a line of credit that shrinks every time it is used carelessly.

What a follow actually is

A follow costs one tap. It says: based on what I have seen so far, I am willing to see more. That is a real commitment, and it is the third stage of attention in the Social Media Contract. It is also provisional. Nothing in it promises that the follower will read, watch or care about what comes next.

Brands tend to read it differently. A follower becomes part of “our audience”, a number in a report, an asset built up over years. From there it is a short step to treating the feed as a channel you have paid for and can fill as you like.

People leave without leaving

Unfollowing takes effort and sometimes feels rude, especially when the account belongs to a friend, a colleague or a business you know. So most people don’t. They do something easier.

They scroll past. They stop reading the caption. They stop stopping.

The platforms know this. Instagram lets people mute an account without unfollowing it. Facebook lets people snooze an account for 30 days or unfollow it while staying friends. These features exist because enough people wanted a way out that didn’t look like one. Every mute is a follow that still counts and no longer works.

Why the count lies

A follower count only goes down when someone takes an action. Attention goes down without any action at all. So the count is a record of past permission, not present interest.

The gap matters more than it used to, because most feeds no longer show posts in the order they were published. Instagram, for example, says it ranks posts in the feed partly on how likely you are to interact with them, and on your history of interacting with the account that posted them. If your followers stop engaging, the feed learns that, and shows them less of you. The audience you have on paper shrinks in practice, and the number on your profile never tells you.

How a follow gets spent

Think of each post as a small withdrawal from the goodwill the follow represents. A post that delivers something useful, enjoyable or relevant makes a deposit. A post that exists to fill the calendar, repeat last month’s announcement or ask for a comment with nothing to offer makes a withdrawal.

No single weak post ends the relationship. A run of them does, and quietly. By the time anyone notices, the people who followed for good reasons have long since started scrolling past.

Audit your last 20 posts

Open your account and look at the last 20 posts. For each one, ask a single question:

Would someone who followed us for the reasons we hope they did be glad they saw this?

Mark each post yes or no. Be honest: “glad” is the test, not “didn’t mind”.

• 15 or more yes: you are keeping the contract. Protect whatever you are doing.
• 10 to 14: you are spending goodwill on filler. Cut the posts that scored no, even if that means posting less.
• Fewer than 10: your followers are probably already scrolling past. Fix the content before you try to grow the audience; new followers will meet the same posts.

These bands are a rule of thumb, not a measured benchmark. The value is in asking the question post by post.

What to measure instead

Follower growth tells you how many people said yes once. It tells you nothing about whether they still mean it. More useful signals:

• Repeat interaction: are the same people coming back to comment, save or share, or is every post reaching a different handful?
• Saves and shares over likes. Both suggest the post was worth keeping or passing on.
• Replies with substance, not emoji. A real question in the comments means someone read to the end.

None of these is perfect, and the right mix depends on the platform. All of them measure the present relationship, which is the one you are actually in.

The short version

A follow is permission to ask for attention again, not a guarantee you will get it. Every post either renews that permission or spends it.

Sources

• Instagram, “Instagram Ranking Explained”, Instagram Blog (updated May 2023).
• Instagram Help Centre, “Mute or unmute someone on Instagram”.
• Facebook Help Centre, “Snooze or unfollow people, Pages and groups in your Feed”.